In the world of competitive sports, coaches frequently encounter athletes with varying backgrounds, skill levels, and attitudes. One of the most challenging mindsets to address is entitlement, particularly in players who expect praise and playing time without having earned it. These players can be described using a powerful metaphor: “They were born on third base, yet they act as if they hit the triple.”

This phrase perfectly captures the essence of entitlement, especially in lacrosse, where parental influence, club connections, or early access to resources can sometimes blur the lines between genuine achievement and inherited advantage.

Understanding the Third Base Metaphor

The saying “born on third base” originates from American baseball and refers to someone who starts life with significant advantages. In lacrosse, this might include players whose parents were former athletes, those who had access to elite private coaching from a young age, or kids who have been on travel teams since grade school. These players didn’t have to grind to get where they are, but they often behave as though they did.

When a player believes they “hit the triple”— that is, earned their status purely through talent and effort— they may resist feedback, disregard team values, or show frustration when they’re benched or corrected. The coach, then, is not just managing skill development but also working to recalibrate a player’s mindset.

The Coaching Challenge

Coaching entitled lacrosse players requires a balance of empathy, firm boundaries, and consistent communication. Coaches must help these athletes see beyond their own perspective. This often means teaching humility, accountability, and respect for both teammates and the game itself.

It’s also vital to recognize that entitlement isn’t always the player’s fault. Often, it’s the result of well-meaning but overly involved parents, early praise without context, or never having faced real adversity. As a coach, acknowledging these factors without enabling them is key.

Strategies for Shifting the Mindset

1. Reward Effort Over Status: Celebrate hustle, improvement, and team play over goals scored or previous accolades.
2. Tell the Truth: Be honest about where the player stands and what they need to improve, even if it’s uncomfortable.
3. Set Clear Expectations: Make it clear that everyone earns their spot, regardless of name, history, or reputation.
4. Model Accountability: Coaches who own their own mistakes and model growth mindset encourage players to do the same.
5. Involve the Whole Team: Build a team culture where values like hard work, unselfishness, and resilience are celebrated.

Final Thoughts

Coaching players who were “born on third base” can be frustrating, but also incredibly rewarding. With the right approach, these entitled lacrosse players can grow into humble, hardworking athletes who contribute positively both on and off the field. The metaphor isn’t meant to shame, but to shed light on the unseen advantages some carry — and the responsibility coaches have to help them see it, own it, and grow from it.